When it comes to parenting there are times when you have to resort to disciplining your kids. Whether they are younger or older will determine the severity of the punishment or how serious their bad behavior needs to be dealt with.
Yelling can happen despite parents best efforts when stresses get high. Whether they have financial stresses like paying off loans, an intense job, or are having relationship issues, sometimes our emotions can get the best of us. Many parents would like to be able to get their point across and discipline their kids without having to resort to screaming but aren’t sure if it will work. However, studies show that non-aggressive discipline isn’t only effective, but it’s the best way to go. Children end up feeling more empowered, content and have less negative associations with their childhood. If you’ve been wanting to find solutions for discipline but aren’t sure where to start, look no further.
Sometimes when children aren’t behaving the best thing to do is to remove them from the situation entirely. This teaches them that aren’t invited to stay with the group if they aren’t going to abide by the rules.
Often this removal from being with the rest of the family until they agree to behave and be kind is effective. Children are social creatures, so being isolated isn’t a pleasant experience for them. Although it may take some repetitive steps to get them to stay put initially, particularly with younger children, it’s just a matter of staying persistent.
If children continue to get up when you try to put them in their time out spot, gently and silently continue to put them back until they remain there for the required amount of time.
Loss Of Privileges
Taking away privileges for bad behavior is proven to be one of the most effective forms of non-aggressive discipline. When children and teenagers learn that there are consequences for their negative behavior they will be less inclined to do the same thing again in the future.
Loss of privileges can include tv time, an activity, or even taking away their favorite toy for a period of time. This will give them time to reflect on why they are being punished and how they can change in the future to avoid these same consequences.
Some parents opt to acknowledge positive behavior instead of negative behavior. Rather than punishing their children every time that they do something which is against their rules, they only reward good behavior.
Sometimes a good way to do this is creating a good behavior chart which includes a sticker for each time they do something good. Once they get enough stickers they get a special treat or toy.